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Offline a.marcos

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Five book reviews for Father's Day
« on: June 20, 2011, 09:09:43 PM »
Reviews by Sheila Anne Feeney

A Father’s Love: One Man’s Unrelenting Battle to Bring His Abducted Son Home David Goldman, with Ken Abraham Viking, 269 pp., $26.95
Goldman, a former model, spent five years in a costly, Kafka-esque international quest to be reunited with his son, Sean.
In June 2004, David Goldman’s Brazilian wife took their 4-year-old son from their Monmouth County home for a “visit,” never to return.
His tenacious struggle, which elicited assistance from sympathetic strangers, reporters and politicians, makes for a suspenseful, instructive read.
After Goldman’s wife died in childbirth in Brazil, the wealthy, connected man for whom she had left him — and his wife’s Brazilian family — audaciously claimed Goldman had abandoned Sean by not paying child support.
Goldman was indisputably victimized by his wife’s selfish, unilateral action of abducting their child. But he had to be the most oblivious husband in the world to never have had the slightest inkling of her unhappiness or true nature. This suspect premise makes the reader long to have had the story reported from the other side, as well as his.

Papa, PhD: Essays on Fatherhood by Men in the Academy

Edited by Mary Ruth Marotte, Paige Martin Reynolds and Ralph James Savares
Rutgers University Press, 240 pp., $21.95

This collection of 32 essays on fatherhood by academicians includes gay dads, black dads, divorced dads and dads dealing with autism, food allergies, foreign postings and financial anxieties. Most deal with some sense of surprise on the revelation that parenthood encroaches on professional identity and requires sacrifice — something most people who dwell outside ivory towers (or lack a Y chromosome) have long known.
Many are oddly bloodless and unfeeling on the emotionally lush topic of parenthood, or omit such critical information as the reason for their marriage’s dissolution.
One longs for more selections, such as the one by Charles Bane, who found wisdom in surrendering his cerebral self to appreciate his little boy emptying the toilet with a feather duster, while refilling the bowl with contact lens solution.
As any truly smart parent knows, you gotta laugh.

The Reading Promise: My Father and the Books We Shared Alice Ozma
Grand Central Publishing, 279 pp., $24.99
Jim Brozina, a hard-of-hearing school librarian, made a pact with his daughter when she was in fourth grade to read to her every single night for 100 nights. When they finished, almost three years later, in the midst of financial and family woes, they decided to keep up “the streak,” which lasted until Alice was in college.
Ozma provides few insights about how the contents of the books affected her in this sometimes-cloying love letter to her father. Rather, the quotidian time commitment was more about cementing a father-daughter bond that seemed to come before all else. Ozma skips too neatly over the departure of her mother from the family and the stakes never seem to be all that high (will they miss a night of reading?!) to drum up any drama. Her immature epiphanies are meh.
Still, “The Reading Promise” is an instructive document on how to produce an adoring child destined to be an academic success.

The Gentleman’s Bedside Companion: A Compendium of Manly Information for the Last Fifteen Minutes of the Day Tom Cutler
Perigree, 303 pp., $15.95 paperback
You’re relishing this amusing slight salmagundi of interesting trivia and thinking, “What a clever compendium!” There’s a nice, understandable explanation of the Fibonacci Sequence and the Golden Mean, an illustrated spread identifying various moustache styles and the incidental info that the platypus is an egg-laying mammal known as a monotreme ...
Then you hit the DIY chapter, “How to Dissolve Your Wife.” Here, the reader is instructed to stuff his helpmate in a tank filled with caustic soda and water until she jelly-fies. “Ideally, she will be dead first,” Cutler writes.
The casual insertion of such epic misogyny (we’re ignoring the ghastly advice about what ploys lure women to bed) undermines this otherwise entertaining book. It also pretty much guarantees mom will not be advising the kids to purchase it as a Father’s Day gift.
A true gentleman provides better counsel to his peers on how to employ their advantages against the gentler sex.

Manning Up: How the Rise of Women Has Turned Men Into Boys Kay S. Hymowitz
Basic Books, 256 pp., $25.95
It’s undeniable that U.S. family life faces a fatherlessness epidemic: In some poor communities, 75 percent of all babies are born to single moms.
Author Kay S. Hymowitz blames female ambition and careerism for this pickle (and sperm banks, which make men feel unnecessary). Perplexingly, she can’t see the forest for the trees she has pounded into big wood signs for this kitchen-sink polemic.
Hymowitz ignores the massive structural and economic changes in our “girl-powered world” that contribute to men’s reluctance to commit, such as non-stop wage compression in the face of skyrocketing health, housing and college costs. Pensions are disappearing and half of all bankruptcies are related to illness.
None of those developments is mentioned as a possible factor in why only 84 percent of college-educated men marry today, as opposed to 93 percent in 1980. Instead, Hymowitz scolds women to realize their biological clocks have timers and concludes “men need to man up.”
She needs to read up.
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Re: Five book reviews for Father's Day
« Reply #1 on: June 21, 2011, 09:27:08 AM »
But he had to be the most oblivious husband in the world to never have had the slightest inkling of her unhappiness or true nature. This suspect premise makes the reader long to have had the story reported from the other side, as well as his.

Bad form.  This writer assumes that Bruna's motives were transparent.  While we may never know her true reasons, her actions, and the results of those actions, speak volumes about her character.  He was an oblivious husband because he trusted his wife to stand by her vows?   

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Re: Five book reviews for Father's Day
« Reply #2 on: June 21, 2011, 10:45:22 AM »
I got really annoyed at this critic.  What an idiot!  Everything is in black and white. She must have read the book with one eye closed if she ever read the whole book at all or saw any of the videos.

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Re: Five book reviews for Father's Day
« Reply #3 on: June 21, 2011, 07:00:15 PM »
Hey, did you read the same book that we all read?  Because from your review it sure doesn't seem like you did.

I sure do not agree with your critique of the book, and from the comments most don't.

Knowledge comes, but wisdom lingers.  ~Alfred Lord Tennyson


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Re: Five book reviews for Father's Day
« Reply #4 on: June 22, 2011, 10:27:33 AM »
Here is a much better and more accurate review/article.  For all of you North Jersey and NYC people, David will be signing his book at Bookends tomorrow night.



A father's long, fierce fight to get his son back
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
The Record

WHAT: Signing his book "A Father's Love."

WHEN: 7 p.m. Thursday.

WHERE: Bookends, 211 E. Ridgewood Ave., Ridgewood; 201-445-0726 or book-ends.com.

HOW MUCH: Free with purchase of the book at Bookends ($26.95).

When David Goldman talks about his 11-year-old son Sean, he sounds like the average proud father.

"He had his first playoff game yesterday and he went three for three. He even got a hit off one of the best pitchers in the league, and he was very instrumental in … keeping the team in the game," says Goldman, a lifelong Monmouth County resident who has a charter fishing business. "And he caught a 38-pound striped bass a couple of days ago on my afternoon charter."

This father-son tale is actually anything but typical, though. Normalcy was something Goldman had to fiercely fight for — a story he tells in his new book, "A Father's Love: One Man's Unrelenting Battle to Bring His Abducted Son Home."

On June 16, 2004, Goldman's wife Bruna took off from Newark Liberty International Airport with then 4-year-old Sean on a two-week trip to her native Brazil.

Half a decade passed before Goldman saw his son again.

"We lost 5 1/2 years that we can never get back," he says. "No matter how great things are now, I missed his first tooth falling out, I missed five birthdays, I missed holidays. We missed them."

In Goldman's telling, he'd had a "storybook romance" with Sean's mother, whom he'd met in 1997 in Milan, where she was studying for her master's degree in fashion design and he was working as a model.

Goldman had stumbled into that career during a summer break from college, while lifeguarding at 10th Avenue in Belmar. Asked to be in some beach shots for a catalog, he wound up posing with Kathy Ireland.

Goldman's modeling work took him to Japan and Europe. In Milan, he and Bruna Bianchi Carneiro Ribeiro, a neighbor in his apartment building, fell in love. They married in 1999, and Sean was born the following year. They bought a house in Tinton Falls. Bruna's parents, Ray and Silvana Ribeiro, even bought a condo in Sea Bright.

Goldman thought they were one big happy family — until June 20, 2004, when Bruna called from Brazil to say, "Our love affair is over. I've decided to stay in Brazil. I'm keeping Sean here with me." (Her American friends would later say Bruna's only hint of complaint was that the couple were not rich.)

Thus began a long period of dark days for a shocked Goldman. His attorneys — in the U.S. and Brazil — decided to file for help under the Hague Convention, a treaty, signed by more than 80 countries, that agrees upon principles and actions to remedy international parental child abduction.

On Aug. 22, 2008, Bruna, who had secured a Brazilian divorce and remarried, died in Brazil — which Goldman discovered two weeks later. She bled to death after giving birth to a healthy daughter. Bruna's parents, along with her second husband, a member of a rich and powerful family, took up the fight to keep Sean in Brazil, tying Goldman up in one legal challenge after another.

"You just have to be patient and let the truth speak with love and patience and understanding," he says. "And in my case, there were enough other people to get angry for me."

Among those who championed Goldman's cause was U.S. Rep. Chris Smith (R-Gloucester County). Later in the fight, Sen. Frank Lautenberg offered crucial help, as did Bernie Aronson, former assistant secretary of state for Inter-American Affairs. With his help, the case even got the attention of Secretary of State Hillary Clinton and President Obama.

Media coverage was also instrumental in turning things around.

On Christmas Eve 2009, Goldman finally left Brazil with Sean.

The Ribeiros continued to challenge the Hague Convention decision, both in Brazil and New Jersey. On Feb. 17, 2011, the Superior Court of New Jersey dismissed the Ribeiros' case.

Sean is thriving, his dad says. "He loves the sea. He loves anything outdoors. He lived a very sedentary lifestyle [in Brazil] , but really, he loves being a kid and he loves being able to do what kids do," says Goldman. "Little people shouldn't have such big problems. The problem that he should have is, 'Gee, Dad, I don't know if I want chocolate or strawberry.' 'Can I stay up later?' 'Can I watch this one more show?' 'Do I have to do this reading now?' Those are the things that are normal for a kid his age, and that's exactly where he is. And it's so great."

E-mail: rohan@northjersey.com

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Re: Five book reviews for Father's Day
« Reply #5 on: June 22, 2011, 10:29:16 AM »
Another good one:


David Goldman Writes Book on Famous Custody Battle
You may remember hearing on the national and international news of the story of David Goldman. In 2004, David’s then-wife took their son, Sean, to Brazil for a supposed vacation, but she and Sean never returned to the United States. David did everything he could to fight for custody of Sean and believed his battle was won when his wife passed away in Brazil in 2008. However, it took years before David was finally successful at getting Sean back from his in-laws.

David Goldman discusses his extraordinary custody battle in his new book, called “A Father’s Love.” His case became high-profile when it caught the attention of news organizations and politicians such as Secretary of State Hillary Clinton.

As Michigan child custody attorneys, we know how difficult it can be for fathers to be awarded primary custody of their children. This problem is compounded when there has been an international child abduction. The custody laws in other countries rarely match custody laws in the United States, which makes navigating an international custody case very complex. Our Lansing based attorneys have successfully litigated international child custody issues in state and Federal courts.  They also handle interstate child custody fights.

Michigan family law lawyers as well as attorneys throughout the country are challenged by international family law / custody cases. Fortunately, we have been practicing family law for over 80 combined years and we know the ins and outs of the legal system. We want to hear from you! We know how important your children are to you and we fight to protect you and your children.