Reunification Process with the Abducting Parent Begins!

[Andrew]

Here is the latest update on the Family Court.

On Friday November 18, 2011,  Judge Scott M. Gordon of the Los Angeles Superior Court Dept 88 (111 North Hill Street, Los Angeles, CA) ordered visitation for the kidnapper on every Saturday for 4 hours.

Judge Gordon ordered the mother Yuxin Mei Wang to undergo psychological counseling on July 20th but has not seen any report from the psychologist.  Even the boys' therapist has said he would like to see the report and also see a few more steps before the mother is allowed contact with the boys.  If anyone has time, please write to Judge Gordon and ask him why he thinks it is safe for the mother to contact the children if he hasn't see any report from the mother's counseling sessions. 

The boys' therapist said to keep the boys busy.  They are playing tennis and basketball at school.  The boys tried skiing in April after their return and asked me to get them Season Lift Tickets.  Now the Judge orders visitation on Sat so our schedule goes out the window.  The Judge didn't even ask what activities or schedule the boys have before making his order.  Just incredible that so much consideration is given a convicted Felon and not the left behind victim.  If the mother was so keen on spending time with the boys, she should not have kidnapped them in the first place  The Custody order at the time of the kidnapping gave her 58% custodial time!

I called a few professional visitation monitors and they asked why the mother has any say in the selection of the visitation monitor since she is the one who kidnapped the twins.  Good question but tha is my lawyer Hugh Lipton.

He is withdrawing from my case because I would not approve an email the mother sent to the boys rightaway.  He said I had to approve it "by tomorrow" or I can find a new attorney.  Just incredible.

Now I will be un-represented.  The mother's attorney Cynthia A. de Petris is now spinning ths situation by saying "assist the boys in this process leading to reunification with mother."  Give me a break.  Reunification is with the Left Behind Parent!  If you have time, please write Cynthia A. de Petris at deasedepetris@hotmail.com or cynthiaadepetris@gmail.com or fax her at 818-981-2201 and explain to her that reunification is with the left behind parent; NOT with the KIDNAPPER.

After 5 weeks, I still don't have the order that prevents the motehr from travelling with the twins.  I need it for the State Dept to get DHS to put the boys on the Prevent Departure Program. 

[Andrew]

Here is an update to all to show the obstacles encountered by a LBP AFTER he recovers his children from an international child abduction.  There is some history here to show how people and systems involved failed.

- On Nov15, 2006 Judge Scott M. Gordon denied the mother Yu Xin Mei Wang's request to take the boys to Singapore for a vacation.  He cited Singapore being a non-Hague country and the mother is a flight risk.

- On June 23 2008, Judge Gordon again acknowledged the mother as a flight risk and denied her 2nd request to take the twins to Singapore for a vacation.

-I didn't know it but the international abduction of Congressman Gary Miller's (Diamond Bar) grandchildren in Nov 2007 is related to my case.  Brian, Evan and Christian Miller were clients of Minor's Counsel Deborah Manning of Glendora, CA.

- In November 2008, Judge Gordon appointed Deborah Manning as minor's counsel for my twin boys saying it is a good choice.  

- Early 2009, Ms. Manning highlighted that the mother might be looking to move away.  This was never brought up in Court nor followed up. Failure #1

- A Child Custody Evaluation was ordered in 2009 and assigned to LA County Evaluator Karin Manger on Apr29 2009.  In the confidential and sealed evaluation report that was released by Wang's attorney without court approval, Ms. Manger stated she spent 2.5 hours with the mother on May20, 2009 and another 2.5 hours on Jun23, 2009.  In over 5 hours of one-on-one interviews, Ms. Manger COULD NOT tell that the mother had already applied for Singapore passports for the children and was in the midst of her plan to kidnap the boys.  Failure #2

- Fast forward to March 15, 2011.  The boys arrive back in the US.

- I had arranged for counseling and therapy for the boys via NCMEC and a Santa Monica CA organization called Find the Children.  Ms. Manning did not like the choice and instead asks me to take the boys to another therapist in Pasadena CA with zero experience with international child abduction.  We start therapy on March 17, 2011.

- On April 14 2011 the mother's second attempt to take the boys was stopped by the San Marino PD.  Officer Wong and Social Worker Ruiz said if I didn't have the phone number of the mother's friend Ruby Chan, "the boys would be gone."

-On April 20, 2011, we were back in Family Court.   Minor's Counsel Ms. Manning did not tell the Court of the 2nd attempt to kidnap the boys eventhough she was contaced on April 14 2011 by the police officer and the social worker Ruiz and updated on the situation.  Failure #3.

- On July 20, 2011, we are back in Judge Goron's court.  Minors Counsel argues: "Respondent Mother to participate in counseling in the Los Angeles area with a trained therapist in parental alienation so that she can learn and understand, among other things, the impact of her actions on the children; and how to support their relationship with their father.”

- I thought this is a great start and the Judge orders the mother into counseling.

- On Aug29 2011.  We are all back in Family Court again.  WITHOUT any input from Dr. Susan Ralston of Pasadena, CA, Minor's Counsel recommends to the Court that the mother be given email access to the boys.

- While setting up the email access, Minor's Counsel wrote:

Date: Mon, 5 Sep 2011 20:46:07 -0700
To: peasedepetris@hotmail.com
The user names selected by your client for the boys may be seen as "code" words. 

OFW has been asked to issue new user names for the boys.  However, to expedite things, would you have your client forward the message she posted to this email address for review

- As if that is not enough, Minor's Counsel wrote again 1 month later:

Sent: 10/4/2011 10:24:33 A.M. Pacific Daylight Time
Subj: Re: Ko v Wang
 
Andrew:

I received professional access this morning and have reviewed the messages.  I sent them to Dr. Northrup for his review.  I have a problem with her use of foreign words, and I am bothered by reference to userids and passwords.  I shared these concerns with Dr. Northrup.

He will review the messages and contact me.  I suggested that the boys see the emails while in session with him so that he can monitor their response.  Perhaps, he could help them draft their emails to mom. 

Hopefully, mom has paid him some money to cover the cost of reviewing the emails and meeting with the boys to read the emails. 

I will advise Ms. dePetris of what we are doing.

Deborah Manning

- Failure #4: this was never brought up in Court in subsequent hearings.  I asked Ms. Manning many times why she is not changing her recommendation for email access even in the face of hard evidence that the mother is doing something she is not comfortable with.  No response whatsoever.

- On Nov18, again without any input from the mother's psychologist Dr. Ralston, the Judge orders monitored visitation.  No one speaks up about the attempts to use code words or the 2nd attempt at kidnapping on April 14, 2011.  Failure #5.

[SageDad]

I'm very sorry, but not so surprised to read this...

There are those who will insist that mom's criminality is some sort of treatable condition right up until they day she kidnaps or kills the kids... and then afterwords, continue to do so and blame the father for driving the mother to such extremes.  Those same people will never see the father as anything but a potential rapist and pedophile no matter what the evidence says.   

http://www.thestar.com/news/article/890839--dimanno-taking-aim-at-a-grieving-dad

It's all about "Women and children first" -- in that order.

[Andrew]

Here is a continuation to bring everyone up to present day on the obstacles and failures
- The email exchanges start and I notice reference to a "hotel, the day before we left."  Is this a reminder of the hotel and to go there again?  I ask Minor's Counsel and therapist.  Was told this is "questions what any normal parent would ask."
- Sorry, but the mother is NOT a "normal parent."  Normal parents don't kidnap their children, get convicted as an international child abductor, nor brainwash their children into believing their father they have known their entire lives is not their father.  Come on! 
- On Dec7, I find a piece of paper with directions in one of the boy's pockets.  I take it to the San Marino PD and make a report.  The Watch Commander advised that I have to bring this up to the attention of the judge.  The Police increase patrols around our home.
- I write Minor's Counsel the following but did not get any response.  Failure #6

From: ko_andrew@hotmail.com
To: debmanning
Subject: Emails crossing the line
Date: Mon, 5 Dec 2011 21:42:21 +0000


Ms. Manning,
 
The latest email from the mother that could be read to the boys tonight has a reference to Aunt Ruby.  You will remember Ruby is the one the boys called to pick them up when they ran away in April; and the Police went to her house to get the boys back. 
 
Do you feel it is allowable for the mother to remind the boys of Aunt Ruby?
 
Do you feel as I do that code is being used to remind the boys to do something?
 
Please look at "basketball" reference in mother's first email, Williams response on basketball with the hotel they were at the day before they left, and "see you soon."
 
Here is what I like to see happen.  When an email has suspected code words or improper references to the past, the entire email is deleted.  You or Dr. Northrup will notify the mother that her email is not acceptable.  We don't need to pick apart each and every email from the mother.  She needs to play by the rules or she doesn't. 
 
Thanks in advance for your response. 

- I followed up with a phone call to Minor's Counsel and she does not return a call or anything. 
- Minor's Counsel has had 5 clients become victims of international child abduction.  Did Judge Gordon appoint her because she has the experience and can spot potential abduction before it happens?
- I get an email to ask to see the boys in less than 24 hours:

From: AKo [mailto:andrewko@aol.com]
Sent: Tuesday, December 13, 2011 7:13 PM
To: AKo
Cc: Tracy Kuehl; <debmanning@earthlink.net>; Randy Northrop; Hugh Lipton
Subject: Re: RE Ko v. Wang

 

Ms Manning.  Please disregard my last email. The boys see Dr Randy at 630 and I would rather you see the boys at his office.

 We had an incident today when de Petris sent a process server to the house. The boys called me and I told them to say they cannot talk to strangers.  The man got the phone from the boys and proceeded to call me.  The police was called and came to the house to ask the man to leave.

 You last saw the boys on Aug22. During the last 4 months there were opportunities to see them during my appeal to you regarding email access. Last Monday I emailed you with 2 questions and called to get your input while on my way to Dr Randy's. No response.

Now you give less than 24 hours notice to see boys just because there is a hearing on Friday. You are to look out for their best interest 24/7; not just to tell the court you saw them. We are the victims and need help.

Regards, Andrew


On Dec 13, 2011, at 1:30 PM, <@manninglaw.org> wrote:

Dear Mr. Andrew Ko:
 
This email is sent to inform you that Ms. Manning has scheduled an appointment for you to bring your children in for an appointment at our office tomorrow, December 14, 2011 at 4:00 p.m.


Our address is 2605 E. Foothill Blvd., Suite A, Glendora, CA 91740.


Thank you,


\Secretary to

Deborah J. Manning, Esq

- I am at a loss as to why people do not be more cautious and err on the conservative side to make sure the children are protected?

[Andrew]

The boys have seen their mother 3 times and they have regressed somewhat.  William said I should start a new life and leave them alone.  Is this what a 11 year old boys would say?

The visitation monitor Connie Thomas of Quality Time Visitation of Claremont California is taking the role of judge to make changes to visitation arrangements.  I have started a blog www.qualitytimevisitation.blogspot.com to let everyone know what she is doing.  "Someone" should call Thomas and read her the rules and expose her!!

Quality Time is a member of the Supervised Visitation Network but there is no (NO) oversight of members by SVN.  SVN collects a membership fee but does not visit the member's place of business or have a procedure to investigate complaints.  I spoke with the Executive Director Joe Nullet and he said they simply don't have the resources.  Collect $100 or $150 a year but don't hire any resources to check out the members.  He kept asking me if I had read their "Disclaimer."

I asked Mr. Nullet to think about this scenario: a person sets up a supervised visitation business, applies to SVN for membership and pays dues.  A custodial parent searches the SVN Directory for a visitation monitor or the custodial parent contacts NCMEC for referral.  Custodial parent engages a SVN member and his/her child is molested or abused by the monitor.  I asked Mr. Nullet if he thinks his "Disclaimer" is enough to shield SVN from liability.  He replied "it hasn't happened in 20 years."

The membership in SVN implies/infers credibility/professionalism and gives a false sense of security to a custodial parent by making him/her think that SVN has regular contact/visits of its members.  I have filed a complaint with Mr Nullet. Let's see if he does anything. 

In the meantime, I have contacted Dr. Craig Childress (http://www.drcachildress.org/asp/Site/ParentalAlienation/index.asp ) who has a lot of experience in parental alienation.  Read his letter for parents to give to therapists.  I sent a copy to the boy's therapist but he didn't read it.  We are now changing therapist for the boys.  The boy's therapist confirmed he does not have any experience with international child abduction and joked maybe Minor's Counsel has a crush on him and that is why she referred him.  Incredible.

[Diane]

 So sad and that you now have your sons home and that the criminal abductor, is able to continue to make things so difficult.   These judges, social workers, therapists, persons assigned to supervise visits (that should not even be happening) at this point need to experience a child abduction in their own life. before they can even begin to understand how unfair this is in every way and especially to the process of reunification.    It is criminal for you to have to deal with this legal morass and then have your young children further alienated by "professionals" and brainwashing by their mother. 

 I hope someone in the system is able to help you and your sons to receive fair treatment and allow you the time and space you need to bond with them and for them to see the kind of loving father you are, without any pressure or negative input from anyone.

[sue]

So sad and that you now have your sons home and that the criminal abductor, is able to continue to make things so difficult.   These judges, social workers, therapists, persons assigned to supervise visits (that should not even be happening) at this point need to experience a child abduction in their own life. before they can even begin to understand how unfair this is in every way and especially to the process of reunification.    It is criminal for you to have to deal with this legal morass and then have your young children further alienated by "professionals" and brainwashing by their mother. 

 I hope someone in the system is able to help you and your sons to receive fair treatment and allow you the time and space you need to bond with them and for them to see the kind of loving father you are, without any pressure or negative input from anyone.

:yeahthat
This makes me so angry, truly amazing that you are having to go through this.  Can you ask for different social workers, therapists , all that are involved?  I just can't believe they would allow her to see the boys after what you have written here.  Yet these social workers have left children in homes and later found murdered.  Things need to change.  Don't stop! 

[rduffiel]

It appears that they are thinking that the kidnapper is the victim, and not you and the boys.
They are not protecting you or the boys and just ignoring your concerns.  It seems that they are just following a script that is just a process that was put in place by their office.

You need the time to rebound with your boys, and she shouldn't be allowed to interfere with that,

[SageDad]

It appears that they are thinking that the kidnapper is the victim...

...It seems that they are just following a script...

They are following a script.  It says mom is always the victim.

[Andrew]

We are on our 3rd Visitation Monitor.  The 2nd one called Wee Care 4 U Agency in Claremont CA quit when I asked her for her taxpayer ID or Employer ID Number.  Wee Care 4 U Agency has been around since 2000, it is strange that it refuses to provide the taxpayer ID.
 
I ask everyone in California to vote AGAINST Dianne Feinstein in her re-election bid in June.  When I asked her office to help bring the twins home in the fall of 2009, her Director of Constituent Services Martha Flores told me they are too busy to help.  Ms. Flores insisted on all communication be via fax, no email, no telephone.  Feinstein has been in office too long and has lost touch with her constituents who need her help.  DO NOT VOTE FOR Dianne Feinstein.

[sue]

I can do that for you!
 

[jenicoy]

I can too.  She's been in office too long. 

[Andrew]

I have decided that "Family Law" is an oxymoron.  It has nothing to do with Family or "the best interests of the children" or with the law.  Decisions are made without regard to the law or orders of the court.
The Taking Parent Yuxin Mei Wang is in 5 years' felony probation.  I attended a Probation Hearing on Sep20 2012 and read a Probation Report that says Wang is in "full compliance with all probation conditions."  This is the farthest from the truth.  There are 6 orders that Wang has not complied with.  I have been writing to LA County Chief Probation Officer Jerry Powers and the LA County DA to get evidence that allowed the Probation Officer Rueda to conclude that Wang is in compliance with her probation conditions.  It looks like a Defendant in LA County can "cherry pick" which parts of a court order she was to comply with.  She was ordered to "Comply with all orders of the Family Law Court" as a condition of probation.  She has not.
In July 2012, Wang was put into Removal Proceedings by the Dept of Homeland Security ICE Removal and Enforcement Operations for Document Fraud.  That means she was never legally admitted into the US.  She was released after her arrest by ICE because they do not feel kidnapping is a serious crime.  Her first hearing in front of an Immigration Judge is not until January 8, 2013.
I ask anyone who can to please write the Director of the Excutive Office of Immigration Review to highlight to him that "kidnapping" is considered a "crime of Moral Turpitude" by the State Department when it comes to immigration matters and Wang should be prosecuted in a timely manner.  When you write, please use the Subject of "Yuxin Mei Wang A055 170 469"  Here is the name and address: Mr. Juan P. Osuna, Executive Office of Immigration Review, 5107 Leesburg Pike, Falls Church, VA 22041
 Back to oxymoron.  I have been doing research on what is a "reasonable standard of care that can be expected from a court appointed Minor's Counsel."  The attorneys I spoke with about the situations below all indicate more could have and should have been done to protect the children.  Let me know what you think and what you would have done in the following situations:
1.    In November 2008, yMinor's Counsel had information that the children’s mother Yuxin Mei Wang had intentions to return to Singapore with the children.  At that time, there was a July 2008 joint custody order in effect and two earlier rejections by Judge Gordon for Wang to take the children to Singapore when he cited flight risk and Singapore being a non-Hague country.  Counsel did not inform the Court of the mother’s intentions, did not take any action to vary the custody order to include a Child Abduction Prevention Order or to put in place Supervised Visitation.  At that time, she had already experienced international child abduction with three other clients (Congressman Gary Miller's grandchildren) and would have been alert to abduction risk.  My children were abducted on August 30, 2009.
 2.    The children returned to the US on March 15, 2011.  Counsel was informed of their mental condition on the day of their departure from Singapore.  Instead of requesting a psychological evaluation of their mental state after they arrived from Singapore, she demanded that they be brought to the Courthouse at 1230pm on March 16, 2012.  The boys suffered a breakdown at the Courthouse and had to be admitted to the Emergency Room at Huntington Memorial Hospital.  I suffered physical injuries from being attacked by the boys.
 3.    Counsel knew arrangements for the boys’ psychological counselling after their return were made with assistance of the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children.  An organization called “Find the Children” had arranged for the boys to attend therapy and Parental Alienation Workshops at the Foothill Service Center. 
 Without any supporting facts, she deemed Foothill Service Center as “unprofessional, and staffed by interns.”  Instead, she recommended another therapist for the children’s therapy.  They started on March 17, 2011.  After more than 9 months of weekly therapy, little or no progress was made.  A third-party assessment by a psychiatrist on January 7th 2012 confirmed that no progress has been made since the psychiatrist saw the children at Huntington Memorial Hospital on March 16th, 2011.
 When I asked the therapist if he had any prior experience with Parental Alienation Syndrome or international child abduction, he replied “No.”  He was at a loss as to why he was recommended for our case. 
 4.    On or about August 29, 2011, Minor's Counsel recommended email access for the Taking Parent Wang without submitting any assessment from the therapist to the Court as to whether it was suitable.  Then Counsel documented in emails the attempts by Wang to use code words.  Even after many written requests from me, she did not bring this to the attention of Judge Gordon and continued to facilitate email access.
 5.    In December, 2011 and February, 2012, I discovered a list of directions and phone numbers in the boys’ belongings.  She knew the boys had run away on April 14, 2011.  I repeatedly asked her to bring these discoveries to the attention of Judge Gordon but she refused.  The children was picked up by Wang's friend Ruby Chan on April 14, 2011 and the list of directions indicate a path towards Chan’s home; along with Chan and her husband’s phone numbers on the phone number list. 
 6.    On December 18, 2011, the Taking Parent petitioned the Family Court for supervised visitation.  Minor's Counsel did not recommend to the Court to first get a mental health assessment of the mother before starting visitation.  She had submitted a Declaration to the Family Court on April 20, 2011 that requested the Court to order the mother into psychological counselling before visitation.  During a July 20, 2011hearing, she made the request again but did not follow up on the order. Nothing was submitted to the Court for consideration before visitation started.
 You are the only one who has any concern or urgency when it comes to the safety of your children. 
"Family Law" indeed.

[Andrew]

It has been 6 months since my last post.  The boys' mother who kidnapped them to Singapore went for her first Deportation hearing in January and then another one in March.  Her next is on August 23, 2013.  I am asking everyone who can to write the Attorney General, Deputy Attorney General or the Immigration Judge to NOT [correction requested by Andrew] allow the mother to apply for a waiver or cancellation of removal.  Template attached below.  Judge is Tara Naslow-Nahas, 606 S. Olive Street, 17th Floor, Los Angeles, CA 90014.
We have immigration laws but need to enforce them rather than finding loopholes for kidnappers to go through.
I saw a Press Release from Senator Barbara Boxer condeming international child abduction.  This is really funny.  She had to be shamed into looking into my case around October 2010.  She help for a few months during her re-election campaign and then disappeared.  I guess the Senate Resolution gives her the publicity she needs but she does not even help her own constituents. I wrote her office for help on Feb25, 2013 and have yet to receive a response.  Politicians are shameless.
 
[font=]May 6, 2013[/font]
Mr. James Cole                                                OR       Mr. Eric Holder
Deputy Attorney General                                              Attorney General
Department of Justice
950 Pennsylvania Avenue NW
Washington D.C. 20530-001
 [font=]Re:       [/font]Immigration and Nationality Act Waiver and Cancellation of Removal for
[font=]            [/font]Yuxin Mei WANG (A055170469)
 
[font=]Dear Mr. Cole OR Mr. Holder:[/font]
 
[font=]Minors Christopher Ko and William Ko were kidnapped to Singapore by Yuxin Mei Wang on August 30, 2009.  [/font]
 [font=]Wang was wanted by the FBI and Interpol on multiple warrants.  [/font]The father of the children Andrew Ko endured an 18-month legal process in Singapore and was successful in bringing his children home to the United States on March 15, 2011. 
 [font=]Wang returned to the United States on May 30, 2011 and was arrested, prosecuted and sentenced for Felony kidnapping by the Los Angeles County District Attorney Child Abduction Unit.[/font]
 [font=]In July 2012, Wang was served a “Notice to Appear” by agents of DHS ICE Enforcement and Removal Operations and charged with “Document Fraud” in relation to her US Permanent Residency visa application.  [/font]Wang was not divorced when she married Ko and concealed this fact when applying for her immigration visa.  Wang had her 2^nd immigration hearing on March 13, 2012 in front of Immigration Judge Tara Naslow-Nahas in Los Angeles.  Wang’s next immigration hearing is on August 23, 2013.
 [font=]I am writing to ask that the Attorney General not exercise his discretion and grant Wang an Immigration and Nationality Act Fraud Waiver.  [/font]Wang does not deserve a waiver or cancellation of removal because:
 1)      She was convicted of felony kidnapping for which she was eligible for a sentence of more than 3 years.  She was sentenced to 180 days incarceration and 5 years felony probation, was fined, and was ordered to pay victim restitution.
 2)      She knowingly committed bigamy in her marriage to Ko.  Both bigamy and Kidnapping are classified as “Crimes of Moral Turpitude” by the U.S. State Department (Foreign Affairs Manual Volume 9 FAM 40.21(a) N2.3-3 Moral Turpitude).
 3)      There is no “exceptional and extremely unusual hardship” on her teenage U.S. citizen children because she does not have any legal or physical custody of them; and she is only granted Supervised Visitation for 4-6 hours on three days a month.  She does not provide any financial, emotional, or physical care for the children.
 4)      She does not have residence of long duration in this country.  Wang departed the U.S. on August 30, 2009 and returned on May 30, 2011.  According to Consular Officer Rachel Sunden at the Singapore U.S. Embassy, Wang’s green card had expired because she stayed out of the U.S. for more than 12 months.  Wang was “paroled” into the US when she returned to Los Angeles on May 30, 2011.
 5)      Wang has no business or property ties to the U.S.  Wang’s family is in her home country of Singapore with her son, her mother, six siblings, and nine nieces/nephews living there.
 6)      Wang did not file US Income Tax Returns for 2009, 2010 and 2011 when due.
 7)      Wang remains an abduction threat to her children according to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children.
       Wang continues an attitude of contempt and remains in violation of conditions of her felony probation by not obeying all orders of the Los Angeles County Family Court as ordered in her felony sentencing.
 [font=]I implore the Attorney General not to exercise his discretion and deny Wang’s request for any waiver or cancellation of removal under the Immigration and Nationality Act at the August 23, 2013 immigration hearing.[/font]
 [font=]Sincerely,[/font]
 

 

 

[Andrew]

Wendy pointed out a TYPO.  I am asking your help to write the Attorney General, Deputy Attorney General and the Immigration Judge to NOT allow the mother to apply for a waiver or cancellation to deportation.  I wrote "now allow" which is 110% wrong.  Thank you.