Dear USAMom,
Follow Roger's advice, move forward but do not make your husband angry. I do believe that many cases of illegal retention or kidnapping are responses to one sided moves (I am guilty here...). My ex made me a prisoner of his whims with legal docs and hot shot lawyers. I hated him for that. How come he could not trust me after more than a decade of common life? He knew I was a good person and law-abiding, which I could not say for some of his sibblings. Nevertheless I never though of separating him from the kids. I asked his permission to go for 4 months to Brazil. He refused. After a while he did for one month. It was better than nothing. When I got to Brazil I found out my father was diagnosed with cancer. I am an only child. I had made a verbal agreement with my ex that if my parents ever needed me, I would go back to Brazil. So I asked him to make arrangements for the kids' situation. Instead he took advantage of the Hague, filed criminal charges against me behind my back, while he kept delaying his trip to Brazil to visit as we had planned on the phone. It was all a lie. He was planning to kidnap the kids instead. Of course I reacted the best way I could, a la Bruna. I kept the kids in Brazil. The anger/hurt cicle is unstoppable. I do think the same happened with David and Bruna.
Where all the deceiving come from? Anger, I guess. His family hated me for asking for the divorce. How could I leave their beloved son? So they financed him to make my life miserable. And my family hated him for being such a pain, and not respect my fathers illness. . Now everything is OK. But it took a while!
Get a psychologist mediator immediately. Lawyers/legal mediators do not have the empathy skills needed for such a delicate matter.
If you need support. Here we are!