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Conversations with my son
tweinstein:
As many of you know, I have been speaking to my son on a near-daily basis for the past 3 months or so. It wasn't always this way and has greatly strengthened our relationship. His goal is one hour per day, but we often run out of things to say well before then.
We talk about video games, sports, school, movie, etc. I wish I could add my daughter to the conversation, but she doesn't like to talk on the phone. She also has trouble understanding my Portuguese and I have trouble understanding her English.
In the past, I have shared some of my son's comments and I felt like sharing some today. It all started when he commented that he remembered the color of somebody's car (he has a great memory for small details). I mentioned that I was impressed by the detail of his memory. With this, he started to tell me some other things he remembered. . .
He remembered the time I drove him to soccer practice and it was raining. While the other parents sat in the car waiting to see if the rain stopped, we got out of the car and started to wash it while the other parents looked at us like we were crazy. I said to him, "at least we had the cleanest car" and he replied, "that's only because they couldn't see the inside!"
He also remembered the daily routine when we each got home from school. I would read the newspaper while he ate a snack. He would play outside with me before eating dinner.
He remembered taking a shower at a normal hour and then doing everything possible to delay going to bed at night.
One more thing he remembered was making cookies with my mom. He told me that the only reason they were edible was because she helped him.
Usually, our conversations are mundane and don't force me to remember the time in his life that I have lost. Today was different.
Teena:
Aww Tim! But you can't think of it that way! Think of it as he REMEMBERS! An he has GOOD memories! I have a feeling that if God forbid this takes any longer for you...he just might want to come home. anyway...i know it is hard to look at any bright side of your situation but I am so glad you talk to him everyday. Soon your daughter will want to too.
liesl78:
Tim,
I have tears rolling down. Those everyday moments we sometimes take for granted are incredibly valuable.
I can't imagine growing up without one of my parents, especially my father, to whom I feel closer to because we're more alike (my parents are still married), nor I imagine what life would be like without my son.
Today my husband said he's afraid I am going to lose it, and should give up on this cause, since it's not about my son.
Then I asked him: would you give up, if you were kept away from [son's name]?
*no answer*
I have all LBPs in my prayers, everyday, with hopes of one day reverting this awful situation. But the reality is, I don't know how you have the strength to get out of bed every morning.
sue:
--- Quote from: Bindlerkids;19171 ---Awww..Tim ... I know the feeling, I normally reach my children by story telling and became quiet good at it.. now they are a bit older and the demands are higher .... I continue to buy them clothes and order pizza and macD deliver to their house in Brazil...believe me Visa Card can go a long away...
Iam very happy for you Tim.
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How old are your children? What a terrible situation for you, in fear for your life. I'm so sorry.
sue:
--- Quote from: tweinstein;19120 ---As many of you know, I have been speaking to my son on a near-daily basis for the past 3 months or so. It wasn't always this way and has greatly strengthened our relationship. His goal is one hour per day, but we often run out of things to say well before then.
We talk about video games, sports, school, movie, etc. I wish I could add my daughter to the conversation, but she doesn't like to talk on the phone. She also has trouble understanding my Portuguese and I have trouble understanding her English.
In the past, I have shared some of my son's comments and I felt like sharing some today. It all started when he commented that he remembered the color of somebody's car (he has a great memory for small details). I mentioned that I was impressed by the detail of his memory. With this, he started to tell me some other things he remembered. . .
He remembered the time I drove him to soccer practice and it was raining. While the other parents sat in the car waiting to see if the rain stopped, we got out of the car and started to wash it while the other parents looked at us like we were crazy. I said to him, "at least we had the cleanest car" and he replied, "that's only because they couldn't see the inside!"
He also remembered the daily routine when we each got home from school. I would read the newspaper while he ate a snack. He would play outside with me before eating dinner.
He remembered taking a shower at a normal hour and then doing everything possible to delay going to bed at night.
One more thing he remembered was making cookies with my mom. He told me that the only reason they were edible was because she helped him.
Usually, our conversations are mundane and don't force me to remember the time in his life that I have lost. Today was different.
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I think this is a wonderful thing. He sure wants to be with you and that is wonderful.
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